You have the power to make the holidays what they are. Have they been traumatic, contentious, divisive, drama? Do you carry holiday baggage? Past harms? Unshed tears? Unvoiced crimes and times?
You can end it right here and right now. You can change everything.
You can take the Decembers into the next generation as a family/lovely time.
Your descendants won't know who to thank.
But it will be you.